
10 years of unhealthy patterns → married
"I met my absolute dream partner. I feel so safe, seen, heard, respected and loved."
Jonnemarie
Matt Cama · Dating coach for women who want marriage
I'm Matt Cama, a husband, father and certified trauma-informed dating coach. With my wife Kelley, I co-founded Dating For Marriage, where we help successful single women heal old patterns, meet quality men and build a relationship that leads to marriage.
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"That was the best investment I've ever made in my life. I met my husband because of it."
Jonnemarie
"I just didn't believe that I was going to find anybody."
Rugi
"Whatever your difficulties are: emotional, time, money, language - go for it!"
Amina, Clinical Psychologist
"The rewards are just astounding. It's worth it."
Erica E.
Success stories
Watch their interviews, read their stories in their own words, and see the messages they sent us.
These are just a small handful of our members. Most women prefer to keep their love lives private, and many need their partner on board before sharing, so only a few have given us permission to share their stories here.
Client interviews
Each one starts with where she was. Look for the "Watch if" line that fits you.
Jonnemarie
Watch if you keep ending up in situationships
Chanone
Watch if you keep attracting unhealthy partners
Tina
Watch if you've never really dated
Jazmin
Watch if you're a single mom, or you struggle to let a man in
Sophie
Watch if dating has felt messy and painful
Holland
Watch if you want a faith-centered approach
Ashanti
Watch if you keep lowering your standards
In their own words
From inside the community
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"You don't talk!"What an ex told me, in front of all my friendsMy story
Before high school, I was an outgoing and unapologetically confident kid. I was loud, funny, and full of joy. But everything shifted for me in my first year of high school.
Now I help women, and men too, avoid the same struggle I went through, so they can meet the person they'll marry.
Is this you?
"I've done all the work. Why isn't it working?"Healed, grown, still single
You've invested in therapy and yourself. You just need the strategy and support to turn that into a relationship.
"I'm starting over."Recently single or divorced
You want to heal properly this time, so the next relationship is the right one.
"I'm dating, but nothing sticks."Dating without direction
You're meeting men, but it fizzles after a few dates or never turns into commitment.
"I don't know where to start."Haven't dated in a while (or ever)
You want the confidence, healing and practical steps to finally put yourself out there.
Are you a man who's ready to find his wife? I coach men 1:1 too →
For men
I was the guy who got friend-zoned, cheated on, and told "You don't talk!"
A dating coach helped me heal my past, find my confidence and become the man Kelley fell in love with. Now I work one on one with men who want the same thing: to meet the woman they'll marry.
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Hear it from the men
"I finally feel like I actually love myself, and I can say that."
Tom · Coaching with Matt
"This has been one of the safest spaces that I felt to just be open, be vulnerable."
Martin · Coaching with Matt

"After a month of dating we have decided to be exclusive and she ticks all of the attributes I listed."
It was amazing to take my coaches hat off and allow myself to be the student, not have to think, compare or design process and techniques simply be guided by Matt. After completing week 1's mission of clarifying what I want in a partner, an attractive lady I had met 8 months previous sat me down at my local gym & recovery centre and told me she had been attracted to me since then. After a month of dating we have decided to be exclusive and she ticks all of the attributes I listed in mission one.

"I would strongly recommend working with Matt to anyone looking to improve their relationships with others, and most importantly, themselves."
Coaching with Matt was such a powerful and transformative program for me. Honestly didn't want it to end. He showed me some of the most valuable lessons in life to date, including how to recognise and heal from my own patterns, and how past traumas I had been carrying were affecting how I showed up in relationships and in life in general. I would strongly recommend working with Matt to anyone looking to improve their relationships with others, and most importantly, themselves.

"My mindset has completely changed when it comes to dating and love, and I've never been more hopeful that my person is out there."
Before I started working with Matt, I was attempting to get over a situationship that I thought was my only chance at love and was devastated. Through working with Matt, I started to believe more and more that I was worthy of a full body yes, and worthy of a healthy relationship. In my life there have not been many consistent role models for genuinely healthy relationships, so it was refreshing as Matt overdelivered for us; giving not just knowledge, but practical tools to take responsibility for our own healing and foster healthy partnerships. My mindset has completely changed when it comes to dating and love, and I've never been more hopeful that my person is out there, and not only that, but that I'm more ready for them than I have ever been. Thank you Matt, I owe you my eternal gratitude.

"I am meeting women I have never met before and I enjoy dating like I never have before."
Working with Matt was a game changer for me. I healed parts of myself that I was not at all aware existed inside me and prepared myself for a loving relationship. As a man, I feel there are not many examples for healthy masculinity in our society. Especially when it comes to love and relationships. Matt embodies this healthy masculinity. The content along with Matt's incredible coaching skills nudged me over an edge. During and after working with Matt I experienced a shift in myself and in many other participants that I got to know. And with this shift came a significant change in my dating experience. I am meeting women I have never met before and I enjoy dating like I never have before. If you want to experience a loving relationship with yourself and a partner and stand out by being your authentic self, working with Matt is the smart way to achieve this goal. Thanks Matt - you overdelivered!

"Since working with Matt I have a new sense of clarity and feel empowered to win in love and relationships."
Before working with Matt, I felt like I knew a lot and just didn't know how to put it together. Matt is great at taking deep and complex ideas and presenting them in a simple and easy to digest manner, and most importantly in a way that's implementable right now. Since working with Matt I have a new sense of clarity and feel empowered to win in love and relationships.
Dating For Marriage
Finding a healthy relationship isn't about luck or timing. It's a skill, and you can learn it. Inside Dating For Marriage, Kelley and I walk you through five steps, with weekly live coaching and a sisterhood of women who want what you want.

Your first step
One call to get clear on your love life. Together, we'll look at three things:
"The discovery call was one of the calmest, most helpful discovery calls I've ever been through with a coach."
A client, after her Love Life Audit
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The 8 critical areas of compatibility to check, so you can tell if the man you're dating (or will date) is truly right for you. No more second-guessing.
In their own words
Beyond the results: how it felt to be coached, from people who've done the work.

"Matt is amazing. He has time for everyone and it is incredible to watch him coaching people with such empathy and care."
First of all, Matt is amazing. He has time for everyone and it is incredible to watch him coaching people with such empathy and care. Before I started working with Matt I was lost, full of self doubt, and had a pretty negative attitude towards being in a relationship. Throughout the coaching Matt has empowered me with knowledge and tools and shifted my mindset to see anything is possible for me. I love myself now more than ever, I'm happy, I'm at peace and have shifted to living in a place of acceptance. Now I am clear about what I want and the steps I want to take to become the person where it is normal for another amazing human to show up in my life. Thank you Matt for your part in my journey, I am forever grateful :)

"I have gained so much self worth… I am no longer seeking outside validation from others to feel worthy of love."
LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE! I can not begin to explain how much working with Matt has improved my life in all areas. Before beginning I had all the symptoms of a text book anxious attachment. I had notice repeating patterns of attracting similar partners with a different face every few months, my boundaries were all over the place with friends, family and work and I was so uncomfortable with not having some kind of male attention distracting me from sitting in my feelings. Working with Matt has literally restructure how I think. I have gained so much self worth, set some strong boundaries with people around me and I finally am super comfortable with being truly alone (this is a big win as I have never been truly single my whole adult life. I am no longer seeking outside validation from others to feel worthy of love. I would and have recommended working with Matt to everyone I know. Matt is amazing at presenting the information, he breaks things down so well that it does not feel overwhelming or impossible to implement his strategies in your real life. Matt listens so well when you share a win or a obstacle you are facing and is so helpful in helping you see the answers to your problems on your own! The group environment made me nervous at the start but after just one week I was so impressed with the beautiful personalities who shared a similar interest in growing and healing. You really feel so understood and comfortable with the group. I am a new woman because of working with Matt. I can't thank Matt enough.

"I found myself dating the same person with a different face… It also helped me become very clear on the type of person I want to attract into my life."
I have been working on my personal development for many years, through books, podcasts, courses, and with a mindful community. However, the work I had done was not specific to romantic relationships and Matt's coaching really spoke to me. I found myself dating the same person with a different face, typically feeling unappreciated and unseen. Working with Matt educated me on what's been happening internally for me from an objective stand point. I peeled back layers that I was unaware of (limiting beliefs, attachment style, etc.), and allowed me to understand myself better and love myself deeper. There were so many emotional releases and the practice of embodying the lessons really made a shift in the way that I show up in the world now while shedding old paradigms and trauma. It also helped me become very clear on the type of person I want to attract into my life and how to select a partner based on compatibility and chemistry. Since working with Matt, I have been having very intentional conversations, speaking up for my desires and needs, and also becoming very aware of the triggers and emotions that come up for me. It's truly beautiful and I HIGHLY recommend working with Matt to anyone who wants to get to know themselves on much deeper level, not just to attract a partner. It all starts from within you.

"I did therapy all last year… But working with Matt took it one step further. It helped me DEAL with those thoughts and feelings."
I don't even know where to start. One of the biggest take always is it gave me to the tools to take action on my life. I did therapy all last year and it helped me figure out why I was feeling the way I was and how to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings. But working with Matt took it one step further. It helped me DEAL with those thoughts and feelings, and my repressed emotions. Taught me how to love myself and see parts of myself I never knew were there. This is more than relationship coaching. It shows you how to love yourself which is the most important relationship in your life. Matt Cama is an amazing teacher. He provides a safe space to discuss your progress. No judgement zone and lots of amazing people to cheer you on. I highly, HIGHLY recommend working with Matt. It might just change your life ❤️!

"Matt is able to create such a safe space to feel, process and heal with such compassion and non judgement."
Before working with Matt, I felt stuck. Two years ago, I had come out of a 14 year relationship/marriage and I didn't know how to finally release it, properly heal and move on. Working with Matt, I learnt so much about myself, about what I want and what I don't want in a man/relationship; how to create, set and follow through with boundaries; how to forgive myself for all that had happened in the past; and to finally feel hope and excitement about the future. I'm loving the learning, growth, uncomfortableness and everything in between. Matt is able to create such a safe space to feel, process and heal with such compassion and non judgement. I would highly recommend working with Matt for anyone that's single or in a relationship - you'll learn so much about yourself and each other in the process.

"I have never received or experienced this much support with love and compassion before."
The most important work you will ever do in your life. In just a few weeks of working with Matt, I have gained immense clarity and support around dream partner vision and trauma healing. As I started to do the work that was necessary, I was able to fall more deeply in love with myself. This is deeply transformative work that we all need to do. Matt and his team are amazing. I have never received or experienced this much support with love and compassion before. I feel like I can share anything and I won't be judged or criticized.
Common questions
Yes. It's a complimentary call to look at where you are, where you want to be, and what's been keeping you stuck. If we're confident we can help, we'll walk you through your options. If not, no worries. We part as friends.
Trusting God and taking faithful action go together. You'd hire a coach for your health or your career. Getting wise counsel for the most important relationship of your life is stewardship, not doubt.
No. Most women we work with are in their 30s and 40s, and we've seen women find love at every age.
It takes about 3 hours a week, and calls have replays. Most women find it saves time, because they stop spending evenings on dates and apps that go nowhere.
It's a live session on Zoom where I walk you through the dating plan we give our private clients: how to meet your future husband, date him, and get into a committed relationship that leads to marriage.
Yes. The free workshop and Dating For Marriage are for women, but I also coach men one on one. We work on confidence, flirting and communicating your needs, healing past hurt, and dating with intention so you can meet the woman you'll marry. Apply for 1:1 coaching.
Start with the free workshop, or book a complimentary Love Life Audit and find out what's been holding you back.
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