Matt Cama · Dating coach for women who want marriage

You've built an amazing life. Now let's find the man you'll marry.

I'm Matt Cama, a husband, father and certified trauma-informed dating coach. With my wife Kelley, I co-founded Dating For Marriage, where we help successful single women heal old patterns, meet quality men and build a relationship that leads to marriage.

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Matt Cama, dating coach and co-founder of Dating For Marriage

Free live workshop

The Dating Plan to Meet, Date & Marry Your Future Husband

Discover why you haven't met him yet, and the step-by-step dating plan to meet your dream man and create the healthy, loving relationship that leads to marriage.

  • The dating plan we give our private clients
  • Where and how to meet marriage-minded men
  • How to date him without skipping red flags
  • How to get into a committed relationship that leads to marriage

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Hear it from them

Real women. Their own words.

Press play to hear what changed for them.

 
Met her husband → "the best investment I've ever made"

"That was the best investment I've ever made in my life. I met my husband because of it."

Jonnemarie

 
Didn't believe she'd meet anyone → now in a relationship

"I just didn't believe that I was going to find anybody."

Rugi

 
From skeptic to believer

"Whatever your difficulties are: emotional, time, money, language - go for it!"

Amina, Clinical Psychologist

 
Worried about the money → "It's worth it"

"The rewards are just astounding. It's worth it."

Erica E.

Success stories

From "same man, different face" to real, committed love

Watch their interviews, read their stories in their own words, and see the messages they sent us.

These are just a small handful of our members. Most women prefer to keep their love lives private, and many need their partner on board before sharing, so only a few have given us permission to share their stories here.

Jonnemarie and her husband on their wedding day

10 years of unhealthy patterns → married

"I met my absolute dream partner. I feel so safe, seen, heard, respected and loved."

Jonnemarie

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Ashanti and the man she met, two photos side by side

Heartbreak → a marriage-minded man

How not compromising her standards got her the love she wanted

Ashanti went from heartbreak to a relationship with an emotionally available, marriage-minded man, even while living on a tiny island with a limited dating pool.

Ashanti

Watch her story

Client interviews

Find the woman whose story sounds like yours

Each one starts with where she was. Look for the "Watch if" line that fits you.

Jonnemarie

From 10 years of situationships to a healthy marriage

Watch if you keep ending up in situationships

Chanone

From toxic relationships to the healthiest love of her life

Watch if you keep attracting unhealthy partners

Tina

From never having a relationship to finding the love of her life

Watch if you've never really dated

Jazmin

From hyper-independent single mom to letting love in again

Watch if you're a single mom, or you struggle to let a man in

Sophie

From chaotic dating and painful relationships to a love better than she imagined

Watch if dating has felt messy and painful

Holland

How structure, coaching and trusting God helped her find love

Watch if you want a faith-centered approach

Ashanti

From settling for less to the love she actually wanted

Watch if you keep lowering your standards

In their own words

Written stories from our members

10 years of unhealthy patterns → married nearly 3 years

“The healthiest, most fulfilling relationship I've ever been a part of.”

“I was stuck in a cycle of unhealthy attachments that had spanned over a decade, jumping from one guy to another. I was already having huge breakthroughs on the first call. The knowledge, strength and confidence I built kept guiding me, and I met my absolute dream partner. I feel so safe, seen, heard, respected and loved.”

JonnemarieMarried nearly 3 years

Exhausted dating at 44 → in love within 3 months

“I am now in a safe & nourishing relationship for the first time in almost 10 years!”

After going on hundreds of dates, Bethany felt exhausted and hopeless about love. At 44, she worried she was running out of time.

“And it has all of the things that I have always wanted that I never thought was possible for me before this program. And all of this has happened in just 3 months since the program! I feel seen and heard, I know how to make him feel seen and heard and we’re both happy, relaxed, in love and committed. It feels amazing. I am so so grateful for the work we did inside this program.”

Bethany D.Dating For Marriage member

Hung up on a situationship → in a relationship

“I had the courage to say: this is what I want.”

“When I joined, I was still hung up on a guy I'd had a situationship with. I discovered my values and what I wouldn't compromise on, and that helped me move on. When I used the dating framework, shortly after, I was in a relationship.”

MimiDating For Marriage member

Giving too much → the most loving relationship

“I am bursting with confidence and I am living and loving my life.”

“After years of giving too much in relationships, of struggling to set boundaries and not knowing how to put myself first, I felt fearful of starting again in case I ended up in the same situation. In this program I learned about slow dating and getting clear on my desires. With the encouragement of this program, I found the courage to put myself out there again, to give love and myself another chance! Now I’m almost 5 months into the most beautiful, wild, fun, honest, limitless, loving relationship… all of me is welcome!”

Grace C.Dating For Marriage member

19 years without a relationship → now exclusive

“He meets all my non-negotiables and truly a lot of preferences as well.”

“I haven't been in a relationship in 19 years. I hadn't learned how to date well or do it in a biblical way. After just a few months of learning so much from the recordings and the modules, I met this man. He prayed for me, sent me scripture verses to meditate on, checked on me every day, and was just truly incredible. We are now exclusive.”

Jenn M.Dating For Marriage member

Didn't believe she'd find anybody → in a relationship

“The proof is in the pudding!”

“I knew that I had a lot of childhood trauma that I needed to deal with, and I wanted to feel positive about dating again.

I didn’t believe I was going to find anybody, and I knew I needed to do some deep work.

Then I found this amazing coaching program with Matt & Kelley.

Their whole program is so good. I did therapy on the side, but this is so different.

Getting coached is life-changing!

I really worked on healing past traumas that are affecting how I date today.

I then met somebody, we started dating, and I am now in a relationship with him.

The proof is in the pudding! I really recommend this course”

RugiUnited States

Close to giving up → matched and in love

“I struggle finding the words to describe how unbelievably happy we are.”

“To be honest, I was getting close to accepting that I would not be able to share the win of finding my partner any time soon. Then on one of the coaching calls, another member shared how letting go of some of her preferences helped her meet her partner. So I made slightly different choices when swiping on Bumble, and this is how we matched. He is such an amazing man, he cares for me in a way I never thought was possible, and we are grateful for each other every day. I wouldn't be here today without all of you.”

Dating For Marriage memberName kept private

Anxious attachment → self-worth and strong boundaries

“LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE!”

“Before beginning the program I had all the symptoms of a text book anxious attachment. I was attracting similar partners with a different face every few months, my boundaries were all over the place with friends, family, and work and I was so uncomfortable with not having some kind of male attention. This program has restructured how I think, I have gained so much self-worth, set some strong boundaries with people around me and I finally am super comfortable with being truly alone (this is a big win as I have never been truly single my whole adult life. I am no longer seeking outside validation from others to feel worthy of love. I would and have recommended this program to everyone I know.”

AmyAustralia

Never dated → confident to date

“This program gave me the foundation and confidence to date!”

“I never dated before and I held myself back so much. I had no idea how to even start. But this program gave me foundation and confidence to date!”

ArianaUSA

Out of a 14-year marriage → in a loving relationship

“I finally feel hope and excitement about the future!”

“Before starting this program, I felt stuck from coming out of a 14-year relationship/marriage and I didn't know how to finally release it, properly heal and move on.

In this program I learned so much about myself, about what I want and what I don't want in a man/relationship; how to create, set and follow through with boundaries; how to forgive myself for all that had happened in the past; and to finally feel hope and excitement about the future!”

CsillaAustralia · now in a healthy, loving relationship

A psychologist who thought coaching was BS

“I'm a clinical psychologist and I always believed coaching was BS. That was a false belief.”

“Whatever your difficulties are: emotional, time, money, language - go for it!”

AminaClinical Psychologist

"I doubt I will learn anything life-changing"

“WELL the whole course has been life changing.”

“I thought I have already been doing a lot of work on myself, I doubt I will learn anything life-changing in this program.

I never ever expected to see changes within myself so fast. My relationship with myself has gotten so much better and it’s really beautiful to see & feel. The supportive community in the program has felt a bit like family and I was so excited for every call. This was definitely the best thing I have done for myself.”

AminaUkraine

Worried about the money

“It is worth every penny. It is worth the financial risk.”

“The main concern for me is always financial. Knowing that it's a risk and maybe I'm not in the best spot financially to do it.

The rewards are just astounding. It's worth it.

You don't know until do it. You realize that it is worth every penny. It is worth taking the financial risk.”

Erica E.Dating For Marriage member

Nervous about the group

“I am a new woman because of this course.”

“The group environment made me nervous at the start but after just one week I was so impressed with the beautiful personalities who shared a similar interest in growing and healing. You really feel so understood and comfortable with the group.”

Dating For Marriage memberName kept private

Hyper-independent → letting someone in

Before working with us, Ashley said she was hyper-independent and afraid to let someone into her life because she was so accustomed to taking care of herself. She also had unhealed trauma that was affecting her love life. After completing the program, she sent us this message:

AshleyDating For Marriage member

From inside the community

Real posts and messages from members

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Matt Cama, dating coach"You don't talk!"What an ex told me, in front of all my friends

My story

Hey! I'm Matt.

Before high school, I was an outgoing and unapologetically confident kid. I was loud, funny, and full of joy. But everything shifted for me in my first year of high school.

  1. "Fat Matt"I went to a sports high school in Australia, surrounded by kids who were extremely athletic. I was a chubby kid, and kids started calling me "Fat Matt." I made an unconscious decision: "If I'm seen, it equates to pain. So I need to be as invisible as possible."
  2. "Mute Cama"I became extremely quiet and tried to fade into the background. It didn't stop the bullying. Kids started calling me "Mute Cama" instead of "Matt Cama."
  3. Friend-zoned and cheated onI struggled to express my needs, take up space, and feel confident in who I was. I became the guy who was friend-zoned, cheated on, and struggled to keep a girl interested.
  4. I hired a dating coachI learned how to heal from my past, rewire my subconscious beliefs, and combine that with relational skills: flirting, communicating my needs, setting boundaries, and being confident in who I am. That's when my love life began to transform.
  5. Married to the love of my lifeKelley followed me on Instagram the night I got back from a healing retreat. I asked her if she'd be down to feed fruit to cows with me. Now we're married, we're parents, and we run Dating For Marriage together.

Now I help women, and men too, avoid the same struggle I went through, so they can meet the person they'll marry.

Is this you?

Who I help

"I've done all the work. Why isn't it working?"Healed, grown, still single

You've invested in therapy and yourself. You just need the strategy and support to turn that into a relationship.

"I'm starting over."Recently single or divorced

You want to heal properly this time, so the next relationship is the right one.

"I'm dating, but nothing sticks."Dating without direction

You're meeting men, but it fizzles after a few dates or never turns into commitment.

"I don't know where to start."Haven't dated in a while (or ever)

You want the confidence, healing and practical steps to finally put yourself out there.

Are you a man who's ready to find his wife? I coach men 1:1 too →

For men

1:1 coaching for men

I was the guy who got friend-zoned, cheated on, and told "You don't talk!"

A dating coach helped me heal my past, find my confidence and become the man Kelley fell in love with. Now I work one on one with men who want the same thing: to meet the woman they'll marry.

Fill out a short application to see if we're a good fit.

What we work on together

  • Confidence and taking up spaceRewire the old beliefs that keep you quiet, invisible or holding back.
  • Flirting and communicating your needsSay what you want, set boundaries and keep her interested.
  • Healing past hurtMove on from heartbreak or being cheated on, so it doesn't follow you into your next relationship.
  • Dating with intentionMeet women who want marriage too, and build a relationship that lasts.

Hear it from the men

In their own words

 
Learned to love himself

"I finally feel like I actually love myself, and I can say that."

Tom · Coaching with Matt

 
Nervous at first → felt safe to open up

"This has been one of the safest spaces that I felt to just be open, be vulnerable."

Martin · Coaching with Matt

Mark
MarkCoaching with Matt

"After a month of dating we have decided to be exclusive and she ticks all of the attributes I listed."

Read his full story

It was amazing to take my coaches hat off and allow myself to be the student, not have to think, compare or design process and techniques simply be guided by Matt. After completing week 1's mission of clarifying what I want in a partner, an attractive lady I had met 8 months previous sat me down at my local gym & recovery centre and told me she had been attracted to me since then. After a month of dating we have decided to be exclusive and she ticks all of the attributes I listed in mission one.

Jake
JakeCoaching with Matt

"I would strongly recommend working with Matt to anyone looking to improve their relationships with others, and most importantly, themselves."

Read his full story

Coaching with Matt was such a powerful and transformative program for me. Honestly didn't want it to end. He showed me some of the most valuable lessons in life to date, including how to recognise and heal from my own patterns, and how past traumas I had been carrying were affecting how I showed up in relationships and in life in general. I would strongly recommend working with Matt to anyone looking to improve their relationships with others, and most importantly, themselves.

Andrew
AndrewCoaching with Matt

"My mindset has completely changed when it comes to dating and love, and I've never been more hopeful that my person is out there."

Read his full story

Before I started working with Matt, I was attempting to get over a situationship that I thought was my only chance at love and was devastated. Through working with Matt, I started to believe more and more that I was worthy of a full body yes, and worthy of a healthy relationship. In my life there have not been many consistent role models for genuinely healthy relationships, so it was refreshing as Matt overdelivered for us; giving not just knowledge, but practical tools to take responsibility for our own healing and foster healthy partnerships. My mindset has completely changed when it comes to dating and love, and I've never been more hopeful that my person is out there, and not only that, but that I'm more ready for them than I have ever been. Thank you Matt, I owe you my eternal gratitude.

Sven
SvenCoaching with Matt

"I am meeting women I have never met before and I enjoy dating like I never have before."

Read his full story

Working with Matt was a game changer for me. I healed parts of myself that I was not at all aware existed inside me and prepared myself for a loving relationship. As a man, I feel there are not many examples for healthy masculinity in our society. Especially when it comes to love and relationships. Matt embodies this healthy masculinity. The content along with Matt's incredible coaching skills nudged me over an edge. During and after working with Matt I experienced a shift in myself and in many other participants that I got to know. And with this shift came a significant change in my dating experience. I am meeting women I have never met before and I enjoy dating like I never have before. If you want to experience a loving relationship with yourself and a partner and stand out by being your authentic self, working with Matt is the smart way to achieve this goal. Thanks Matt - you overdelivered!

Daniel
DanielCoaching with Matt

"Since working with Matt I have a new sense of clarity and feel empowered to win in love and relationships."

Read his full story

Before working with Matt, I felt like I knew a lot and just didn't know how to put it together. Matt is great at taking deep and complex ideas and presenting them in a simple and easy to digest manner, and most importantly in a way that's implementable right now. Since working with Matt I have a new sense of clarity and feel empowered to win in love and relationships.

Dating For Marriage

Our coaching program: the Formula To Finding Love

Finding a healthy relationship isn't about luck or timing. It's a skill, and you can learn it. Inside Dating For Marriage, Kelley and I walk you through five steps, with weekly live coaching and a sisterhood of women who want what you want.

  1. HealRelease what's been choosing for you.
  2. ClarifyKnow exactly who you're looking for.
  3. EmbodyShow up as the woman he's drawn to commit to.
  4. DateA clear plan to meet men who want marriage.
  5. CreateBuild a relationship that leads to marriage.
Ashanti and her husband on their wedding day
Where it can lead: Ashanti on her wedding day

Your first step

What happens on your complimentary Love Life Audit

One call to get clear on your love life. Together, we'll look at three things:

  1. Where you are nowAn honest look at your dating life, your patterns, and what's been happening so far.
  2. Where you want to beThe relationship, marriage and family you're praying for.
  3. The Love Blocks keeping you stuckThe hidden beliefs and patterns standing between you and the man you'll marry.

"The discovery call was one of the calmest, most helpful discovery calls I've ever been through with a coach."

A client, after her Love Life Audit
The Ultimate Compatibility Checklist on a tablet

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The 8 critical areas of compatibility to check, so you can tell if the man you're dating (or will date) is truly right for you. No more second-guessing.

In their own words

What it's like to work with Matt

Beyond the results: how it felt to be coached, from people who've done the work.

Clare
ClareCoaching with Matt

"Matt is amazing. He has time for everyone and it is incredible to watch him coaching people with such empathy and care."

Read her full story

First of all, Matt is amazing. He has time for everyone and it is incredible to watch him coaching people with such empathy and care. Before I started working with Matt I was lost, full of self doubt, and had a pretty negative attitude towards being in a relationship. Throughout the coaching Matt has empowered me with knowledge and tools and shifted my mindset to see anything is possible for me. I love myself now more than ever, I'm happy, I'm at peace and have shifted to living in a place of acceptance. Now I am clear about what I want and the steps I want to take to become the person where it is normal for another amazing human to show up in my life. Thank you Matt for your part in my journey, I am forever grateful :)

Amy
AmyCoaching with Matt

"I have gained so much self worth… I am no longer seeking outside validation from others to feel worthy of love."

Read her full story

LIFE CHANGING EXPERIENCE! I can not begin to explain how much working with Matt has improved my life in all areas. Before beginning I had all the symptoms of a text book anxious attachment. I had notice repeating patterns of attracting similar partners with a different face every few months, my boundaries were all over the place with friends, family and work and I was so uncomfortable with not having some kind of male attention distracting me from sitting in my feelings. Working with Matt has literally restructure how I think. I have gained so much self worth, set some strong boundaries with people around me and I finally am super comfortable with being truly alone (this is a big win as I have never been truly single my whole adult life. I am no longer seeking outside validation from others to feel worthy of love. I would and have recommended working with Matt to everyone I know. Matt is amazing at presenting the information, he breaks things down so well that it does not feel overwhelming or impossible to implement his strategies in your real life. Matt listens so well when you share a win or a obstacle you are facing and is so helpful in helping you see the answers to your problems on your own! The group environment made me nervous at the start but after just one week I was so impressed with the beautiful personalities who shared a similar interest in growing and healing. You really feel so understood and comfortable with the group. I am a new woman because of working with Matt. I can't thank Matt enough.

Tara
TaraCoaching with Matt

"I found myself dating the same person with a different face… It also helped me become very clear on the type of person I want to attract into my life."

Read her full story

I have been working on my personal development for many years, through books, podcasts, courses, and with a mindful community. However, the work I had done was not specific to romantic relationships and Matt's coaching really spoke to me. I found myself dating the same person with a different face, typically feeling unappreciated and unseen. Working with Matt educated me on what's been happening internally for me from an objective stand point. I peeled back layers that I was unaware of (limiting beliefs, attachment style, etc.), and allowed me to understand myself better and love myself deeper. There were so many emotional releases and the practice of embodying the lessons really made a shift in the way that I show up in the world now while shedding old paradigms and trauma. It also helped me become very clear on the type of person I want to attract into my life and how to select a partner based on compatibility and chemistry. Since working with Matt, I have been having very intentional conversations, speaking up for my desires and needs, and also becoming very aware of the triggers and emotions that come up for me. It's truly beautiful and I HIGHLY recommend working with Matt to anyone who wants to get to know themselves on much deeper level, not just to attract a partner. It all starts from within you.

Alison
AlisonCoaching with Matt

"I did therapy all last year… But working with Matt took it one step further. It helped me DEAL with those thoughts and feelings."

Read her full story

I don't even know where to start. One of the biggest take always is it gave me to the tools to take action on my life. I did therapy all last year and it helped me figure out why I was feeling the way I was and how to pay attention to my thoughts and feelings. But working with Matt took it one step further. It helped me DEAL with those thoughts and feelings, and my repressed emotions. Taught me how to love myself and see parts of myself I never knew were there. This is more than relationship coaching. It shows you how to love yourself which is the most important relationship in your life. Matt Cama is an amazing teacher. He provides a safe space to discuss your progress. No judgement zone and lots of amazing people to cheer you on. I highly, HIGHLY recommend working with Matt. It might just change your life ❤️!

Csilla
CsillaCoaching with Matt

"Matt is able to create such a safe space to feel, process and heal with such compassion and non judgement."

Read her full story

Before working with Matt, I felt stuck. Two years ago, I had come out of a 14 year relationship/marriage and I didn't know how to finally release it, properly heal and move on. Working with Matt, I learnt so much about myself, about what I want and what I don't want in a man/relationship; how to create, set and follow through with boundaries; how to forgive myself for all that had happened in the past; and to finally feel hope and excitement about the future. I'm loving the learning, growth, uncomfortableness and everything in between. Matt is able to create such a safe space to feel, process and heal with such compassion and non judgement. I would highly recommend working with Matt for anyone that's single or in a relationship - you'll learn so much about yourself and each other in the process.

Kanwal
KanwalCoaching with Matt

"I have never received or experienced this much support with love and compassion before."

Read her full story

The most important work you will ever do in your life. In just a few weeks of working with Matt, I have gained immense clarity and support around dream partner vision and trauma healing. As I started to do the work that was necessary, I was able to fall more deeply in love with myself. This is deeply transformative work that we all need to do. Matt and his team are amazing. I have never received or experienced this much support with love and compassion before. I feel like I can share anything and I won't be judged or criticized.

Common questions

Before you book

Is the Love Life Audit really complimentary?

Yes. It's a complimentary call to look at where you are, where you want to be, and what's been keeping you stuck. If we're confident we can help, we'll walk you through your options. If not, no worries. We part as friends.

If I hire support, am I not trusting God?

Trusting God and taking faithful action go together. You'd hire a coach for your health or your career. Getting wise counsel for the most important relationship of your life is stewardship, not doubt.

I'm in my 40s (or older). Is it too late?

No. Most women we work with are in their 30s and 40s, and we've seen women find love at every age.

I'm so busy with my career. Do I have time?

It takes about 3 hours a week, and calls have replays. Most women find it saves time, because they stop spending evenings on dates and apps that go nowhere.

What happens at the free workshop?

It's a live session on Zoom where I walk you through the dating plan we give our private clients: how to meet your future husband, date him, and get into a committed relationship that leads to marriage.

Do you work with men?

Yes. The free workshop and Dating For Marriage are for women, but I also coach men one on one. We work on confidence, flirting and communicating your needs, healing past hurt, and dating with intention so you can meet the woman you'll marry. Apply for 1:1 coaching.

Your marriage isn't going to happen by accident

Start with the free workshop, or book a complimentary Love Life Audit and find out what's been holding you back.